Asleep, With Hearts Awake

Dark two-story house at night, upper windows lit, a figure watching from one as a car’s red taillights streak past.

A young person does not encounter a collection of speeches, words, and instruction manuals: they encounter a life that is communicated—or they encounter nothing at all.Photo: Paris Bilal / Unsplash.

“Staying awake, then, doesn’t mean never sleeping. It means having enough oil when the night grows longer.”
— Julián Carrón
Julián Carrón Asleep, With Hearts Awake

Julián Carrón - All ten virgins fell asleep. Only the unexpected showed which ones had brought oil

Today’s liturgy reminds us that the end is near, and it invites us to be wise. The first reading describes wisdom almost as a person: she shows herself to those who love her and lets herself be found by those who seek her. More than that, she goes out looking for those who are worthy of her. “Whoever watches for her at dawn shall not be disappointed, for he shall find her sitting by his gate.” We don’t have to climb mountains. God’s wisdom goes ahead of us and waits for us on our doorstep. She is easy to recognize because she is radiant.

The Psalm gives voice to this desire: “My soul is thirsting for you, O Lord my God.” This is the first key to the parable in today’s Gospel: being wise doesn’t mean knowing a lot of things. It means desiring God, the One who can quench this thirst.

“The kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. […] Since the bridegroom was long delayed, they all became drowsy and fell asleep.” We all know what it means to wait a long time. Waiting for a child to come home, for a diagnosis, an answer, a job. Waiting for our prayers to be answered. At first, the waiting is full of hope. Then the hours go by, the night drags on, and weariness sets in.

The Gospel tells us something surprising: they all fell asleep. All of them, not just the foolish ones. Jesus doesn’t scold anyone for sleeping. He doesn’t ask us to be heroes who never close our eyes. He asks something else of us. As the Song of Songs puts it: “I was sleeping, but my heart was awake” (Sg 5:2). Anyone who has waited knows this, especially anyone who waits up at night for a child to come home. The body rests, but the heart is awake. Not even the chores of daily life snuff out this vigil. The one we are waiting for can come at any hour.

At midnight a cry goes up: “Behold, the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!” All ten virgins wake up and get their lamps ready. Until that moment they were all the same: same clothes, same waiting, same sleep.

Only now does the difference show, and it is something small and hidden: the oil. Five of them brought it along in flasks; the other five thought the lamp would be enough. From the outside, nothing looked different. In daylight, an unlit lamp and a lit one look alike. It is the unexpected that reveals the difference.

We can take part in the same gestures, but the difference comes out when the unexpected happens. In that moment, each of us puts our own waiting and our own wisdom to the test. It isn’t about never dozing off. It’s about something more personal, something each of us discovers when life takes us by surprise. The lamp is the outward expression of faith; the oil is the life that keeps it burning. We can take part in many things and still not be ready when the bridegroom arrives.

The foolish ones ask, “Give us some of your oil.” And the wise ones say no.

At first glance, it sounds like a selfish answer, almost un-Christian. But the parable isn’t about generosity. It’s about something that, by its very nature, cannot be handed over. The readiness of the wise virgins cannot make up for the foolish ones’ lack of it. This attitude of waiting can’t be bought or borrowed, and no one else can take our place. It is personal. Each of us is personally responsible for it.

We see this whenever something unexpected happens: each of us faces it with whatever wealth of experience we have built up. We saw it with COVID, and we keep seeing it every day. Suddenly we realize that we cannot recover what T. S. Eliot calls “the Life we have lost in living.” We notice it in the anguish that overwhelms us. The problem isn’t that others are ungenerous or unwilling to share their oil. Jesus shows us what it is really about. He concludes: “Therefore, stay awake, for you know neither the day nor the hour.” Staying awake, then, doesn’t mean never sleeping. It means having enough oil when the night grows longer. It means living the present in such a way that, whatever the hour, we can get up and go out to meet the bridegroom with joy, so great is our longing for Him. None of us can take this for granted.

We Christians today can find ourselves in the same situation as the Christians of Thessalonica, to whom Saint Paul writes: “We do not want you to be unaware, brothers, about those who have fallen asleep, so that you may not grieve like the rest, who have no hope.” He doesn’t say, “Do not grieve.” The sorrow remains. But it is a sorrow inhabited by hope, because Jesus died and rose, and God will bring with Him those who have fallen asleep.

Here is the word that ties the readings together: “asleep.” The virgins sleep; our loved ones sleep in the Lord. Sleep is not the last word. For those who sleep with their hearts awake, the last word is the midnight cry, the voice of the bridegroom who is coming. And Paul’s promise is what all our waiting reaches for: “Thus we shall always be with the Lord.”

Dear friends celebrating your wedding anniversary today: we hope you will support one another in this time of waiting.

Notes not reviewed by the author

Thirty-second Sunday in Ordinary Time – Year A - Notes from the homily of Fr. Julián Carrón

November 8, 2026 - (First Reading: Wis 6:12–16; Responsorial Psalm: Ps 63; Second Reading: 1 Thes 4:13–18; Gospel: Mt 25:1–13)

Julián Carrón

Julián Carrón, born in 1950 in Spain, is a Catholic priest and theologian. Ordained in 1975, he obtained a degree in Theology from Comillas Pontifical University. Carrón has held professorships at prestigious institutions, including the Catholic University of the Sacred Heart in Milan. In 2004, he moved to Milan at the request of Fr. Luigi Giussani, founder of Communion and Liberation. Following Giussani's death in 2005, Carrón became President of the Fraternity of Communion and Liberation, a position he held until 2021. Known for his work on Gospel historicity, Carrón has published extensively and participated in Church synods, meeting with both Pope Benedict XVI and Pope Francis.

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