The Measure of Love

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Walking Together at Dawn

“For to love means: to affirm one’s destiny, to care for one’s destiny, to wish that one may be happy. A ‘love’ that lacks this content is a form of exploitation”
— Michiel Peeters
Michiel Peeters The Measure of Love

Michiel Peeters - Caring for your Destiny isn’t selfish: we love others in the measure we’re loved.

“When the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees…, one of them, a scholar of the law, tested Him by asking: ‘Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?’” For the Jews had received from God a wise Law, which they had broken down into 613 small commandments; good ones, that help to live, to make the world a better place, like the ones we have heard in the first reading: “You shall not molest or oppress an alien…. You shall not wrong any widow or orphan.… If you lend money to one of your poor neighbors…, you shall not act like an extortioner toward him by demanding interest from him. If you take your neighbor’s cloak as a pledge, you shall return it to him before sunset.”

However, it is difficult to keep all 613 commandments at all times. Maybe there is an order? Thus, the Pharisee asks, “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” Jesus answers immediately, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.” This is the foundation of all the rest: of your whole vision of reality, your whole road of life, all decisions you make, and all priorities you set.

“To love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind,” with all your human capacities, with all you are. We could reformulate this phrase thus: one should care for one’s Destiny, one’s happiness, more than for anything else. Care for your Destiny, your happiness, more than for anything else.

Isn’t that egoistic? No, because when I really care for my realization, I recognize that “happiness [is] only real when shared.” Or, as the Balada da caridade says: “How could I be happy if I would close my heart to my poor brother?” Caring for others is integral to our self-realization, as we learn through charity work.

To leave no ambiguity, Jesus says: “The second [commandment] is like [the first and greatest one]: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” As yourself. If we would not love ourselves, we cannot love our neighbor. If we would not love our destiny, our happiness, Mystery, God, we cannot love our neighbor. One can love another in the measure one loves oneself. For to love means: to affirm one’s destiny, to care for one’s destiny, to wish that one may be happy. A “love” that lacks this content is a form of exploitation. Likewise, pretending to love another, while not caring about one’s own destiny, is false and violent.

All this would be true but abstract if our destiny, if happiness, would not have come to us to stay with us, to make these things clear to us in our present experience. In fact, during the Last Supper, Jesus says to his friends: “I give you a new commandment: […] As I have loved you, so you also should love one another.” For I can love in the measure that I am loved, that I realize I am loved. We are together to see whether Christ, present among us, makes possible this new gaze on ourselves and on others.

(Homily by Fr. Michiel Peeters, Tilburg University Chaplaincy) - 30th Sunday in Ordinary Time A (Exod 22:20–26; Matt 22:34–40)

Unrevised notes by the author.

Michiel Peeters

Michiel Peeters, a Dutch Catholic priest and Tilburg University chaplain, is associated with Communion and Liberation. He engages students in faith discussions, addresses modern objections to religion, and bridges contemporary culture with Catholic spirituality. Peeters contributes to translating movement literature and organizing events, becoming an influential voice in Dutch religious discourse.

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