Who is the Adult?

Black-and-white vintage typing class: students at typewriters, a teacher at left, a Good Shepherd picture above the board.

Who Is the Adult? A vintage typing class.

“I could have answered my students by laying out my views and arguing them carefully, telling them what is right and what is wrong. But what would they have discovered about the criteria they already use to face life?”
— Simone Riva
Simne Riva Who is the adult?

Simone Riva - People want change—some even through violence—but there’s no revolution without an “I.” Talking about Milan in the classroom.

The question came before I was even through the classroom door: “Prof., what do you think about what happened in Milan?” The room went quiet while they waited for my answer. But the man standing in front of them—and they know this well—can’t shake off the education he received, summed up in one of the most revolutionary expressions of Christian education: “We want—and this is our goal—to liberate young people: to liberate them from mental slavery, from the conformity that makes them mentally enslaved to others. From the very first class, I have always said, 'I am not here so that you may accept the ideas I give you as your own, but to teach you a true method for judging the things I will tell you. And the things I will tell you are an experience that is the result of a long history: two thousand years.’’’1

So I turned the question back on them: “Why didn’t you go to Milan?” What followed was one of those conversations where you lose track of the day and the hour, and it drew in even the students who usually keep to themselves. At one point, one of them explained why he had turned down his friends’ invitation. He spends Saturdays at work with his father, and he knows what it takes to keep a business afloat. Then he added: “The most useful thing I can do is study.”

I’ve known him for years, and I was struck by how seriously, and with what conviction, he said it. The same challenge came up in my other classes. At the end of the hour, two students walked out with me and said, “Okay, but you have to tell us what you think.” I smiled: “You can tell what I think from the questions I ask you.”

When reality throws down a challenge, you can tell right away who steps up and who cleverly passes the buck. We’ve seen it again these past few days, buried under an avalanche of commentary and appeals. We should say this, we should do that, we need to change… but who is going to do all this? What has become of the educating subject (which can never be the State)?

Where will we find this subject? Amid this whole tangle of good intentions? Among the interviews of people who no longer know where they come from and lean every time on the world’s criteria? In the refrain of those who have grown old, opposing everything and everyone? Or in the tired round of initiatives, events, meetings, speeches, entertainment, and slogans that have never touched anyone’s heart?

Then there’s that other refrain about adults: absent, weak, and unfamiliar with the young. But who is the adult? I could have answered my students by laying out my views and arguing them carefully, telling them what is right and what is wrong. But what would they have discovered about the criteria they already use to face life? How could they have verified their position?

The events in Milan certainly raise big questions—but those questions have been open for years, not for a week. Within the life of the Church, for example, Archbishop Mario Delpini of Milan told Avvenire on October 20: “The Christian community does not have a formula for education but rather should create the conditions so that the inner Teacher, through the gift of the Holy Spirit, may teach the ways of the good. Parish oratories can help those who attend them. But I believe that those who attend oratories should be encouraged to help those who do not. In the past, perhaps, people were advised to throw out the rotten apple so that the rot would not infect the healthy apples in the basket. I believe that instead of apples, we should speak of lamps: whoever welcomes Jesus becomes like a lamp that can give light to everyone and point to the goal that is worth desiring—namely, the fulfillment of each person’s vocation—and the path that can be followed.”

His words recall Fr. Giussani’s definition of an adult: “An adult is someone who strives to live relationships, as St. Paul said, in Christ, and thus embodies that great character of the Christian who has crossed the threshold of maturity in faith (and this is the moment when one feels smallest!): a character full of victory and boldness, because Christ is risen.”2

All this could leave us with nothing but a raised middle finger, the one we’ve seen in video after video these past few days. It doesn’t have to. We might ask whether we could be the ones to embody what we hope to receive from others. That means remembering how we were reached, what brought about the change in our lives, and through which faces and circumstances.

Otherwise, as always, we’ll wait for a chance to turn the page and brush it all aside with a yawn.

Notes

1. Luigi Giussani, Il rischio educativo (Turin: SEI, 1995), xv.

2. Luigi Giussani, Faith Is Recognizing a Presence: Notes from a Conversation with a Group of Adults (Milan, 1977).

Translated from the Italian by the editorial team at epochalchange.org

Simone Riva

Don Simone Riva, born in 1982, is an Italian Catholic priest ordained in 2008. He serves as parochial vicar in Monza and teaches religion. Influenced by experiences in Peru, Riva authors books, maintains an active social media presence, and participates in religious discussions. He's known for engaging youth and connecting faith with contemporary

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