Evil Hurts

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“Forgiveness is not a moral achievement that depends on our own strength. It is the consequence of having been reached by a greater forgiveness.”
— Julián Carrón
Julián Carrón Evil hurts

Julián Carrón - Why we can't forgive by willpower alone, and how the mercy we've received makes forgiving again and again possible.

Evil hurts. It wounds us when we suffer it. We feel treated unjustly, in a way unworthy of our dignity, because evil tramples on our humanity. And it doesn't leave us indifferent. It stirs up resentment, anger, and rage toward whoever did this to us. The wound awakens in us a need for justice, and out of that need comes the urge to answer the evil we have suffered with revenge: we want the one who offended us to pay for what they did.

Sirach doesn't mince words: "Wrath and anger are hateful things, yet the sinner hugs them tight. The vengeful will suffer the LORD's vengeance, for he remembers their sins in detail." Instead of vengeance, Scripture calls us to forgive: "Forgive your neighbor's injustice." To forgive means refusing to give in to the thirst for revenge, and making room for mercy.

Only in this way can we receive God's forgiveness: "Forgive your neighbor's injustice; then when you pray, your own sins will be forgiven." If we don't take this step first, how can we be forgiven? "Could anyone nourish anger against another and expect healing from the LORD? … If one who is but flesh cherishes wrath, who will forgive his sins?"

But how can we take that first step and forgive those who have wronged us, when we are so wounded and consumed by anger and resentment? Is forgiveness even possible in that state?

This is the backdrop for the question Peter puts to Jesus, a question that shows just how hard it is to forgive: "Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must I forgive? As many as seven times?" Jesus answered, "I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times." How can anyone come to forgive like that—always?

Jesus uses Peter's question to introduce the new reality He brings into the world, which He calls the Kingdom of God. The kingdom of heaven is like a king who decides to settle accounts with his servants and finds that one of them owes him a sum he could never repay: ten thousand talents. When the servant begs him, the king is moved with compassion and forgives the entire debt.

This is the new reality, the Kingdom, that Jesus proclaims to us: a kingdom where God's merciful love comes before any repayment of debt, however just that repayment might be. As St. John says, "We love because he first loved us" (1 Jn 4:19). Without a love that can quiet our anger and our thirst for revenge, forgiveness is impossible. We have to be at peace within ourselves, or resentment and the thirst for revenge will sweep us away. That inner peace can only come from a completely free act of God, like the one we just saw the king perform.

In this parable, Jesus shows us where to find the strength to forgive: not in our own willpower or ability, but in the mercy we have already received from God. This is a radical shift in perspective. Forgiveness is not a moral achievement that depends on our own strength. It is the consequence of having been reached by a greater forgiveness. Those who have truly experienced the cancellation of an incalculable debt are so astonished by this unheard-of act of God that they, in turn, become able to forgive. Knowing that we have been forgiven is the indispensable condition for forgiving again and again. Only when we are moved by having been forgiven can we forgive.

Still, the forgiveness we receive doesn't settle the outcome in advance. After being forgiven, a person remains free; the gift doesn't force anyone to forgive. The Gospel offers examples of every kind. Take the woman who washed Jesus' feet. Jesus tells the Pharisee who had invited Him to dinner that she loves so much because she has been forgiven so much. Her love for Jesus is not the original cause of her forgiveness, but her response to the unique gift she has received (cf. Lk 7:44–47).

But having been forgiven doesn't necessarily lead us to forgive others, as today's Gospel shows. Nothing human is automatic. We see this in the rest of the parable. The servant who has just been forgiven an enormous debt goes out and runs into a fellow servant who owes him a trifling sum. He seizes him by the throat and has him thrown into prison because he can't pay.

When the king hears of it, he summons the wicked servant and says to him, "Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant, as I had pity on you?" Then he hands him over to the torturers. "So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives your brother from your heart." The Father cannot force anyone to accept His mercy so that forgiveness of a brother may spring from it. In the same way, Christ must wait on our freedom, without closing the door on anyone, not even on one of His persecutors.

In the second reading, St. Paul knew full well what Christ had done for him while he was still a persecutor, and he can no longer conceive of his life apart from this love. "None of us lives for oneself, and no one dies for oneself. For if we live, we live for the Lord, and if we die, we die for the Lord; so then, whether we live or die, we are the Lord's." Only those who, like Paul, are filled with gratitude for the gift received from Christ will feel no need for revenge when someone offends them. For Paul, revenge is far too little to satisfy his infinite thirst for justice. He wants to live for the One who alone can satisfy this need for fulfillment: the Lord, who forgave him his entire debt. Only this fulfillment, which Christ offers to those who choose to live for Him, frees Paul from all resentment. It surprises him with a capacity to forgive always, which would otherwise be impossible.

Twenty-Fourth Sunday in Ordinary Time – Year A
Notes from the homily by Fr. Julián Carrón
September 13, 2026
(First Reading: Sir 27:30–28:7; Responsorial Psalm: Ps 103; Second Reading: Rom 14:7–9; Gospel: Mt 18:21–35)

Notes not reviewed by the author.

Julián Carrón

Julián Carrón, born in 1950 in Spain, is a Catholic priest and theologian. Ordained in 1975, he obtained a degree in Theology from Comillas Pontifical University. Carrón has held professorships at prestigious institutions, including the Catholic University of the Sacred Heart in Milan. In 2004, he moved to Milan at the request of Fr. Luigi Giussani, founder of Communion and Liberation. Following Giussani's death in 2005, Carrón became President of the Fraternity of Communion and Liberation, a position he held until 2021. Known for his work on Gospel historicity, Carrón has published extensively and participated in Church synods, meeting with both Pope Benedict XVI and Pope Francis.

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